17. I like musicals and languages and math and bow ties.
I wonder what would happen if you only let kids watch strictly black and white films from the 50’s for the first ten years of their life, and then on their 10th birthday showed them Avatar in 3D.
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That’s not true
…it is though
And if you DON’T like pineapple on your pizza, reblog THIS POST.
I’m doing a census on this ongoing argument please help it’s obviously important.
“The scholars say I got the same virtuosity and brains as my pops!/The ladies say my brain’s not where the resemblance stops!” yah both of yall got fucking shot philip
omg there is a committee in our yard eating a possum i’m gonna try and get some photos
FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO ARE NOT AWARE A COMMITTEE IS A GROUP OF VULTURES there is NOT a bunch of people in my yard discussing business opportunities while occasionally picking at the carcass of a marsupial
recovery instagrams are like: “so here’s a transformation photo. I’m posting this but not to show you how sick I was or to compare …”
I still do not and never will understand these. they make the recovery community so incredibly toxic. there is no point in transformation photos. you shouldn’t have sick pictures. they serve no purpose. you don’t need a picture to remind you of the horrific times. also, this disorder isn’t about the weight so it’s extremely invalidating for those who might not have gone through something like that or made a transformation with their body. the struggle doesn’t stop when you are weight restored. so by posting these photos you are reinforcing to society and others starting in recovery that this is about the weight and life is all grand and wonderful after the you restore your weight. whether or not you realize or what to admit it, sick pictures are used as fuel and having them is disordered. your ED will use it against you when you are feeling vulnerable. get rid of them. THERE IS NO POINT. stop holding on to something that doesn’t need to be held on to. and stop justifying your need to keep them. if you’re justifying and getting defensive over a photo, that says it all. let go and move on.
Yes yes yes
A blog I really like posted a really graphic transformation pic recently and I was so disappointed :\ They’re totally unnecessary
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The way straight men talk when they don’t think anyone else is around is fucking terrifying.
#so many trans women FUCKING DESPISE men #like #really really hate men #this is why
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see, this is what I shoulda said in the original post. She made it better.
I’m gonna delete the original now cause all those notes are annoying me.
Seriously. Absolutely fucked up. I never thought about this, but wow, cis women don’t even know. This makes a lot more sense now about why cis women are sometimes genuinely surprised to hear my serious criticism of a man for the way he acts around me (or what I easily can tell from his social behavior.) “Really?” Because this experience has been part of my life pretty much since I started grade school, I never consciously realized that others didn’t know what men are like.
I’m also now realizing that my aversion to men that I had so much trouble explaining and weird feelings around expressing now make total sense.
right? like there’d be these guys and cis women would be like ‘oh, he’s so sweet’ and i’d be like…. what?? that guy??
i mean, ive got a whole lot more reasons to hate men than this, but this is a huge part of it. most women really don’t realize, like, how much collective solidarity men have in not judging each other for this shit and keeping it secret and everything. and hell, there’s been a few times where i’ve specifically tried to warn cis women about certain guys and of course they didn’t believe me.
but, no, seriously, cis women: guys are way more awful than you think. that sweet, friendly guy? you don’t even want to know what he says about you when you’re not around.
So much this.
Like, cis woman think that when we say stuff like “when you are a trans woman, you get to see how cruel men really are” that we are only talking about when they are enacting transmisogyny on us.
And while that would give insight, by then we already know how horrible they are. When we are closeted and parsed as other men, they are completely open about how fucking disgusting they are.
Another reason why trans women being male-socialized is such bullshit. Being around men like this doesn’t force us to internalize positive messages about men, we internalize the negative we hear about women and we are scared.
My father and someone who has helped me a lot in AA happen to be ones I get these messages from regularly.
agreeing with this so much.
Repeating for emphasis: “Being around men like this doesn’t force us to internalize positive messages about men, we internalize the negative we hear about women and we are scared.”
this is why guys’ overt sexualisation and objectification of girls and women which can be observed in some parts of the web never registered to me as a phenomenon specifically amplified by “anonymity” or modern networked communication. i was all too used to equally as overt patterns long since, by the few boys with whom i’d socialised while not out. (“few” not as in that i socialised more with girls; most of my contacts outside the family were boys, i was merely generally isolated.)
(so, it may still in fact be to do with the meme of “no [women] on the internet” that’s common in a few spaces and in guys’ claims to those spaces. this may help their perception that “their” supposed “internet” would indeed be a primarily male space, and thus their decisions to act as if their audience is guys, first and foremost.)
sure, sexual harassment occurred and occurs directly towards us (all women including cis women) and in our presence, but when “no girls” were assumed present, boys seemed much more comfortable to engage in demeaning language and to announce their ideas about us. i’d speculate there’s much less inhibition then than may be in many public contexts, or even when a lone woman is directly addressed by one guy alone or in a group of guys. to the contrary, more encouragement, even. after all, there’s “no harm done” then, or so they’ll claim. because spreading and practicing misogyny, individually and socially, doesn’t harm /them/ if there are no tangible adverse consequences against their actions.
the sad thing is when they don’t diminish this around you once you’re out. by sad i mean commonly transmisogynistic and degendering, or misogynistic unmarked as may be the case. (after all, cis women may be considered to be “one of the guys” and thus assumed to be or actually be fine with this behaviour, as well.)
^ As a trans woman who helps run this blog, I agree entirely with the bolded parts here and the commentary. I especially want to emphasize the part about knowing what men are like - when you see them in their private spaces you pick up on their behaviour and manipulation tactics. That’s why we are incredibly wary around men that are claimed to be “one of the good guys” because we’ve routinely seen these be the kind of men who are essentially putting up an act in order to get close to women and make her drop her guard. It’s disgusting and happens so often.
This is why you’ll almost never find a trans woman who doesn’t at least distrust men. And why many of us are disengaged, fearful, or hateful of them. Nearly all of us have had the unfortunate experiences of seeing how men are and it scares us that cis women who trust men are not able to see all their good men for who they really are.
